Originally posted by M©+square:
Why Stressed Men Wont Talk
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A woman talks outside her head, that is, You can hear her, whereas
a man talks inside his head. He doesnt have a specific brain area
for speech so this suits his mindset. When he has a problem he
talks to himself while she talks to other people....
This is why, what under the pressure of
problems or stress; man will clam up and stop talking. He uses his
right brain to try to solve his problems or find solutions and he
stops using his left brain to listen or speak. His brain can only
do one thing at a time.
He cant solve problems and listen or talk simultaneously.
This silence is often distressing and frightening for a woman.
Women say to their husbands, sons and brothers. Come on, youve
got to talk about it! Youll feel better! She says this because
this is what works for her. But he just wants to be left alone to
firegazer until he comes up with some solutions and answers.
He doesnt want to talk to anyone about it, especially a therapist,
because he sees that as a major sign of weakness.
The famous Rodin Sculpture The Thinker symbolizes a man thinking
about his own problems. He wants to sit in his rock and think about
solutions and needs to be alone to do it.
The key word here is [color=brown][b]ALONE no one
is ever allowed to go up on the rock with him. not even his best
friends. In fact, his male friends would not even contemplate going
up there. A woman feels the urge to climb up there with him to give
comfort and she gets a rude shock when he pushes her off!
If Rodin created a sculpture to a woman. it would probably be
called The Talker. Women need to understand that when a man is on
his rock they need to leave him there and let him think.
Many Women feel that his silence means he doesnt love her or that
hes angry with her. This is because if a woman wasnt talking,
shed be angry or upset. But if she leaves him on his rock with a
cup of tea and a biscuit and doesnt press him to talk, hell be
fine.
When he finally solves his problem. hell come down off his rock
and feel happy and begin to talk again. [/color]
Extracted from Why
Men Don't Listen & Women Can't Read Maps by Allan & Barbara
Pease
pg.161 - 163[/b]
true about both man and woman... my hubby is the example
